Confidence is a form of magic

So much of what we do depends on having enough confidence. Day to day life is full of decisions – many of which we may not even notice making on a normal day. However, if fear has paralysed you, or experience has shattered your confidence, those small decisions can become overwhelming. Shower? Breakfast? I think often people fall down on self care because they just can’t figure out what to do, and end up doing nothing.

Every communication we enter into depends on confidence. If you don’t expect to make sense, then speaking at all is hard. If you don’t have the confidence that you will be listened to, heard and taken seriously then communicating is hard. This is part of why it is often so hard to ask for help when you’re in trouble.

It is more normal to frame this in terms of what we can’t do when anxious, but I think there’s some use in flipping it over. Almost everything we do depends on confidence. Without confidence it is so difficult to make choices, act or speak. How much confidence a person has is going to greatly inform how effective they can be. Curing someone’s anxiety is far more complicated than the idea of boosting their confidence, but the effects are going to be much the same.

We can all support each other in being more confident. We can cheer each other on. When we shoulder burdens together we can better manage the difficult choices. When we put our faith in each other, and make that explicit, we can lift and empower each other.

Confidence is belief. Belief is most assuredly magic. We could all use more of that, but it’s a magic we can make together, and for each other.

About Nimue Brown

Druid, author, dreamer, folk enthusiast, parent, polyamourous animist, ant-fash, anti-capitalist, bisexual steampunk. Drinker of coffee, maker of puddings. Exploring life as a Pagan, seeking good and meaningful ways to be, struggling with mental health issues and worried about many things. View all posts by Nimue Brown

5 responses to “Confidence is a form of magic

  • darrack1

    Reblogged this on The Passing Place and commented:
    I don’t reblog very often. So when I do you can perhaps take this to mean this is something that touched upon a truth and I feel is important to share
    Nimue Brown’s druid blog is one I should reblog more often, ever insightful considered and often just expressing a truth I would struggle to put in such elequant terms.
    This one in perticulary spoke to me, so let it speak to you

  • Katie Marie

    Wow. This resonated with me SO much: ‘If you don’t expect to make sense, then speaking at all is hard. If you don’t have the confidence that you will be listened to, heard and taken seriously then communicating is hard.’ I’ve been struggling with this exact feeling for such a long time, and you articulated it beautifully. Thank you!

  • Laura Morrigan

    I struggle with confidence. I have to give myself a stern talking to sometimes. It is also so important to be surrounded by people who support and encourage us when we aren’t able to do so!

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