Time off, regardless of the behaviour

I’m not really here. The internet is very good at letting me appear to be here when in fact I am not. If all has gone to plan, I may not even have climbed out of the duvet as you read this. I wrote this blog last week, when I was plotting my time off.

One of the things I have learned the hard way is that I can’t work an event over a weekend and then get straight back into a regular working week and expect to function. So, this year, after spending the bank holiday weekend at a massive and wonderful steampunk event in Lincoln, I will spend the next day recovering. Recovery time is essential to mental and physical health, to concentration, productivity, efficiency and getting to be a person. I’ve stopped treating it like some kind of luxury and started recognising it as essential.

I’ve also noticed how much my thinking is affected by time off. I think better when I get decent breaks from doing that. I am more likely to have good ideas when I’m not especially trying to have good ideas.  There’s a definite correlation between downtime and creativity.

I’ve also learned over the last few years that I’d been under-estimating how much time I need to process big emotional experiences. Emotions take energy. Suppressing them takes even more energy. Making space for them is good. I have a better head if I make space for the feels.

As I write this, I know Asylum will be full of feels. There are lots of people I adore and don’t see very often at all. Some only at this event, in fact. There are people involved I would go so far to say that I love, and spending time around them will impact on me hugely. I’m taking out two public displays, one to try and get people involved in The Hopeless Vendetta, and one song based performance, and that’s going to have an emotional impact. No doubt there will be things I didn’t see coming – there always are.

Time to reflect, to absorb, process, make sense, digest – whatever needs doing – is essential. I don’t want to be bouncing carelessly, thoughtlessly from one experience to another. I want to live a considered life. Often that requires more time in the duvet, just chewing things over.

About Nimue Brown

Druid, author, dreamer, folk enthusiast, parent, wife to the most amazing artist -Tom Brown. Drinker of coffee, maker of puddings. Exploring life as a Pagan, seeking good and meaningful ways to be, struggling with mental health issues and worried about many things. View all posts by Nimue Brown

8 responses to “Time off, regardless of the behaviour

  • Krishna KK

    Hello, Already mention you that i am your very regular blogger of you post. And every time being very amazed to your post. Thanks

  • Jen - Liminal Luminous

    It’s far too easy for us to just keep pushing ourselves on, but I know if I don’t rest when I need to then eventually there will be payback.

    I also seem to need a lot of free space to just think about things. Walking, swimming and just lying around pondering all help. If I don’t have this space then I can feel very mentally cluttered very quickly

  • MossBadger

    Appreciated this post. As an introvert, the energies needed for lecturing wipe me out and its taken about twenty years for me to feel its OK to schedule time out afterwards. I know I’m lucky to be able to do so. I completely concur with your insight that this is not a luxury, its absolutely essential. Thank you for posting.

  • okarnill

    Enjoy the time 🙂 I’m glad you got out and about. I really must try the timed post one day…. still getting the hang of any post lol

  • Christopher Blackwell

    What, time out not as reward for slaving away until near total collapse, but just for physical, mental and emotional health,and fun? I am sure that has got to be a sin, illegal or something. [Grin] Go for it!

  • bone&silver

    Yes, as an Introvert (albeit an Extroverted one sometimes), I schedule a day off after an event to recover and recharge, it’s essential. Have you read ‘Quiet- the power of Introverts in a world that can’t stop talking’? SUCH a good book! Enjoy your self care time : )

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