Life cannot be depend upon to deliver us second chances. Moments pass. Things that we allow to slip through our fingers swim away, never to be seen again. People die, and we never said ‘I love you’. Sometimes an earthquake means there is no going back to the much loved place. Sometimes technology means the job no longer exists. Best to jump now, I always think. While you can, while it’s there to be jumped for. Tomorrow may be too late.
Sometimes life does deliver second chances, and these are rare and precious gifts. If you know you got it horribly wrong the first time, if you know what the mistake was, or why you hesitated, if there is regret… A second chance is a miracle.
To give a second chance is to practice benevolence and generosity. It is to forgive, and to hope for better, to trust, and to create opportunity. Get it wrong, and of course everything can go awry that went wrong before. But there are only so many opportunities to give second chances, as well. How much your own heart can endure will be one of the variables. How much the need for the second chance comes for the kind of human mess we’re all so perfectly capable of. Questions of need, of ability, of courage. Not to be snatched from you by those with a heady sense of entitlement, but to be given carefully.