To be a better Druid

We all develop in different ways and our paths take us each in different directions. No two of us will have quite the same definition of what it means to grow, improve, or whether ‘better’ is even a relevant word to apply. Nothing in nature stays still unless it is dead, and even the dead change. Growth, change, and movement are inevitable then, and choosing the ways in which we do this can be an important part of how we approach our Druidry.

At the moment I find understanding is critical for me in a lot of ways. I need to understand my own journey, and to see how experience has shaped me. There are aspects of self and behaviour that are not what I want, but to change them smoothly rather than hacking at them, I need to make sense of how they formed in the first place.

Understanding other people is of great importance to me, too. When things go wrong, I find I need to know why. I need to understand what created that situation. If I’ve messed up, I need to know so that I can fix it. If someone has messed me about because they were acting out of their own history, fear, pain or similar I want to understand that. I have a better chance at responding with compassion if I know what lies beneath anger, or negativity. I also have a better chance of responding usefully. Some people can only usefully be walked away from, but if I can say with confidence ‘that happened because…’ I don’t have to carry much away with me as I go.

Wider things in life come to be, as a consequence of all kinds of tiny connections, threads, histories and intentions. The more I can see of that, the more able I am to work with the possibilities rather than getting at cross-purposes with others.

I think about everything, a lot. When it comes to the issue of understanding, what I have to do a lot is guess. Analysing someone else’s words or actions is not unlike analysing a poem. You can come out at the end with a really impressive theory but it might be miles away from the poet’s take on things. Speculating about whys and wherefores is an inexact science and I’ve seen people get into trouble because they believed they were better at that than was the case. And of course people change, and they can wait until you thought you had it all figured, and come up with something you did not anticipate. Like the poem, the poet/person might tell you what they thought it meant and that be so far from how you experience it as to be irrelevant.

Relationships with hills and horizons tend to be a lot easier than relating to people. It is enough just to be there. But, people are a big part of my life, and trying to make sense of what happens and why remains key to getting the Druid stuff done, for me.

About Nimue Brown

Druid, author, dreamer, folk enthusiast, parent, polyamourous animist, ant-fash, anti-capitalist, bisexual steampunk. Drinker of coffee, maker of puddings. Exploring life as a Pagan, seeking good and meaningful ways to be, struggling with mental health issues and worried about many things. View all posts by Nimue Brown

8 responses to “To be a better Druid

  • Jenny

    I just wanted to leave a quick message to say a general thanks for your posts. I read them every day and while I rarely comment, they do by turns make me think, reassure me, inspire and challenge me and often, make me feel less alone in my beliefs and world view and I think that needs acknowledgement. So thank you for sharing this part of you with those of us who read about it.

  • Christopher Blackwell

    I have come to the conclusion that I will only understand a very small part about any other human. It does not surprise me as I have had many times that I have not understood me. I understand that only to a small percentage of people will I make sense to and then only those that share a similar reality to me. I accept the fact that a great deal about human behavior will forever be a mystery to mine. I understand what I can and no longer worry about what remains a mystery to me. I have learned that over thinking something that I don’t understand will do little to increasing my understanding and use energy that might be more profitable for me to put to use to investigate something else.

    • Nimue Brown

      I think it’s partly the authoring thing with me, human behaviour is the clay I work with…

      • Christopher Blackwell

        Nimue, On the authoring thing, I think one of the hardest thing in writing a story is creating the right conversations, that reveals what the reader needs to know, but doesn’t waste his/her time. The same goes for setting the scene and describing the action. Once you start the story it has its own way it needs to go to makes sense.

      • Nimue Brown

        Yes, the life or death of a story is often in the dialogue, totally agree. It is inevitably stylized while needing to sound realistic… reading it out loud often helps, I find.

  • Running Elk

    Reblogged this on Shamanic Paths and commented:
    Wonderful post from Nimue Brown. For Druid, read Shaman… no, actually, make that, read human… 🙂

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